Often when we are stuck in a large, multi-faceted project or task, there is good reason. We get:
- deflated
- distracted
- uninterested
- bored
- consumed by something else
- perfectionistic
- and over time, we forget the need to have this task be done.
So much for the task.
In my experience, there is always a key in these situations. That is, there is one action you can take that will cause a rippling, cascading effect on the rest of your to-do list items within the project. Taking that one action will make you feel like you are on a downhill glide to the finish line.
Here's an example of a “key” situation: If you are stuck on your dissertation, try to identify what is getting in your way. Is it that you haven't put yourself in the library in a while? Is it that you haven't seen your advisor for an update meeting in a while? Is it that you haven't seen any human being in a while? Instead of sitting and stewing about how much time has gone by and how wrecked you feel, contact the person in your life who will help you to remember you can do your work. Turn that key.
I recommend acting on your “key” idea or action as soon as you possibly can:
- If you e-mail your advisor that you'd like to meet at the end of the month, your motivation will be recharged if only because you now have something to aim for or because you are freaked out about the idea of showing up empty-handed.
- If you are planning a large get-together, send an e-mail blast to all of your guests, just to get your juices flowing and to engage your guests in conversation about your plans and preparation needs.
- If you need to mail a package, place the package near the exit to your home, so it has a fighting chance of making it out the door.
- If you don't know how to proceed because you have no knowledge how, contact the first person you can think of who can guide you in the right direction.
- If you need to fix something in your relationship with someone close to you, speak specifically and directly about the problem you're experiencing, and simply follow along once the conversation gets rolling.
In all the above scenarios, you can see there is no “perfect” plan in action. Each of these “key” steps will lead to you opening up your capacity to act again. It's not so important what you do as it is important that you do do something to move yourself forward. There's your life you need to enjoy again. Go do it.
If you have any questions about finding your “key,” or stories to share about successful actions in your own life, please feel free to leave a reply here. Please also remember to join me on Twitter @ChristineLiPhD for more information and conversation.
