When I work with clients, I hear about a lot of fears.
Those fears never scare me.
You know why? Because I have no idea whether those fears will become real or not. Please remember me telling you “I have no idea” the next time you think of asking me about what negative things will develop if you decide to move forward. Because that is the truth.
I can't say your fears won't come true, but I can say from 20 years of being a psychologist that our worst fears tend not to come true.
So instead of getting all worked up with my clients, I try to help them to get active. Or to get calm. Either state — active or calm — is way more beneficial than the state of being terrified. Way more.
Don't let all of your precious time be taken up by unrealistic fears and dreamt up worries.
Your fears and worries are just indications that you are about to embark upon something new, and you have feelings about making that change.
Instead of thinking the action is so frightening, start to look at your fear as being the obstacle.
Change your mindset about fear.
Know that fear is just a feeling about something.
We are going to change your mindset. Instead of using all of your resources and thoughts to avoid the perceived danger, we are going to head towards the fear and break it down.
Here's the 5-Point Technique to Conquer Your Fear of Moving Forward:
1) What was it about the original idea that made you afraid?
2) What particular fears do you associate with going towards the idea?
3) What risk do you need to take in order to conquer your fear and move forward?
4) What tools do you have right now that would be useful in moving forward? Communication? Planning? Brainstorming? Interpersonal support?
5) What would be the benefit of breaking away from the fear you have? More time? More flexibility? More sanity?
Now set a deadline — yes an actual deadline — for taking action against your fear and towards the task you want to accomplish. Imaging yourself bulldozing everything in your way to get done with the task instead of imagining yourself as a vulnerable, helpless newbie with no resources or experience.
Use the enjoyment and relief you will feel after completing your goal to carry you directly into your next efforts for making positive change in your life. Don't lose momentum.
Momentum is a powerful force for against fear. Fear is a powerful force against change. You have all the power in the world to make your choice about which force you'd like to align yourself with more.
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