by Dr. Christine Li

If you've been struggling with feeling like you're being overlooked for opportunities that you would like, this blogpost was created for you. Continue reading to see the possibilities for changing your behavior and your environment so that you can enjoy greater visibility and recognition right away.

Understanding the Patterns of Being Overlooked

When we consistently feel overlooked, it can stem from a deep-seated belief system. These beliefs are often formed during childhood and can shape our expectations and perceptions. If you expect to be overlooked, you’re likely to find instances confirming this belief everywhere. It's like having a radar constantly tuned to detect when you're being ignored or passed over. As human beings, we are wired to protect ourselves from perceived dangers. If being overlooked feels like a threat to your safety or success, your mind will remain hyper-alert to these instances. This is why changing your belief system is crucial.

Changing Your Expectations

My first piece of advice is to change your expectations. Decide that you are not overlookable. This might sound like a tall order, especially if you've believed otherwise your whole life. But remember, beliefs are changeable. Just because you’ve felt overlooked in the past doesn’t mean it has to define your future.  Act as if you are impossible to overlook. This change in mindset will reflect in your behavior. You’ll find yourself speaking up more in meetings, making sure your contributions are noticed, and positioning yourself for recognition and promotion. Your energy and presence will command attention.

Addressing Childhood Logic

Often, our childhood experiences shape our beliefs about ourselves. If you grew up feeling overshadowed by others, this might have translated into a belief that you’re less important. Recognize that this is just remnants of thoughts created through childhood logic and not an unchangeable truth. As an adult, you have the power to redefine how you see yourself and how others see you.

Deciding What You Want to See

You have the power to decide what you want to see in your life. This is where the reticular activating system (RAS) comes into play. The RAS is a network of neurons in the brain that filters information based on what we deem important. If you decide to focus on being seen and recognized, your RAS will start highlighting these instances in your daily life.  For example, if you’ve been focusing on being overlooked, your RAS has been ensuring you notice every instance of it. Shift this focus to recognition and appreciation, and you’ll start noticing those moments more. Train your brain to see the positive interactions and acknowledgments you receive.

Taking Action

The final and most crucial step is taking action. We can’t control others’ behaviors, but we can control our own. Stop tolerating being overlooked and start creating the circumstances where you receive the recognition you deserve. This might mean having difficult conversations, standing up for yourself, and consistently showcasing your value.  Remember, this is your one precious life. Embrace it fully and ensure your presence is felt. Experiment with being more visible, and don’t be afraid to shake things up. As you change your energy and expectations, others will naturally respond to this new, more confident you.

For everyone reading, I’ve created a free cheatsheet to help you shift your mindset and achieve your goals. Visit maketimeforsuccesspodcast.com/goals to download it.

Let’s support each other in this journey of growth and self-discovery. You are not overlookable, and it’s time to make sure the world knows it.  Keep striving for success and making your presence known.

To listen to the Make Time for Success podcast episode that inspired this blog post, visit: https://www.maketimeforsuccesspodcast.com/transformation-tactics-from-being-overlooked-to-being-outstanding/