A few days ago, I wrote about getting rid of something that was nagging at you. I think the idea is important enough to elaborate on here. I have read the “unconscious” is a part of us where our unfinished business lies. In my own imagination, I think of it as a swirling, chaotic mess of beginnings, looking for matching (or suitable) ends. Kind of like my laundry room, before I did my refresh of the space. I believe the unconscious, as seen in this way, communicates powerfully to us each time we:
- leave something hanging
- don’t complete something with as much effort as we know we should have
- suppress our awareness of what’s really going on
- pretend not to see realities like deadlines and due dates
- don’t make sure we remember things we need to remember
- lie to ourselves
I find it fascinating how this process works. I do my best to forget about something, and then at a certain point, I find myself thinking about that something when I least expect to. A lot. And yes, I often try my best to forget things.
I also think the unconscious expresses itself in myriad ways, like:
- our errors in judgment
- our indecision
- our slips of tongue which leave us saying things we don’t really mean to say
- our churning stomachs
- our feelings of unease
- our changing capacity to maintain our focus
Rather than being daunted and freaked out by this idea of the active unconscious, try to align yourself with your inner communicator. Pause the next time you feel queasy or feel stressed or nervous and begin to unpack what you might be trying to tell to yourself. I’m betting the messages will be quite useful to you. Relieving even. That is why I’m encouraging you to not flinch at signs of your unconscious calling out at you. Over time, you will have a sharper ear for listening to yourself, and you will start to feel less in conflict, in tension, and in distress.
Have any interesting unconscious messaging stories to share?
